“If you don’t set baseline standards for what you’ll accept in your life, you’ll find it easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes and a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve.” Tony Robbins
Raising our standards is one of the conscious decisions we can only make whenever we want more from life, either to pursue our lives purpose or to achieve our personal goals to live an exceptional life. We can grow ourselves to become more in life, remain at our current state, or fall back to low life; all depends on the standards we set for ourselves. Our standards set our values, and our values define who we are. Our lives reflections and how people see us in the real world can only be measured by the quality of our standards.
We are all born equals, but what separate us from each other are the quality of the standards we set for ourselves, either consciously or unconsciously. Different people have different standards and values, the differences are based on either high or low standards. From our professions, to our appearances, our relationships, our finances, our spirituality, our beliefs systems, all are governed by the standards we hold on each of them at any particular period of time. Most often, our standards are set by default, that is, from what we learned from our environment or doctrines from religions and our families.
“We only get what we believe that we deserve. Raise the bar, raise your standards and you will receive a better outcome.” — Joel Brown
People have an endless list of things they believe they should do or should follow through on. And these “shoulds” carry about the same weight as a New Year’s resolution — that is, if it happens, then that’s exciting. But if not, it won’t be too disappointing because you kind of knew it wasn’t really going to happen anyway.
But what happens when you decide something is an absolute “must?” What happens when you cut off any other possibility than you succeeding — when you decide that you are either going to find a way to make something happen or you’ll create the way yourself?
When you raise your standards and turn “should” into “must,” you are making an inner shift to take control over the quality of your life. Any area you are not getting what you want is because you haven’t raised your standards.
“Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.” — Mandy Hale
Any time I sincerely want to a change or move to another stage of life, the first thing I often do is to raise my standards. Then I move straight to consciously visualize my current standards to know things that are no longer important to me, and then set some new standards that will help me move to the next level. I do make new demand for myself to see beyond my current standards and think in years, like 5 to 10 years from today, what kind of person am I going to become? How would people will be thinking about me in terms of contributions or helping them live an exceptional life? What am I go to stop doing, do more or start doing that will help me reach my new set standards?
Raising my standards often be like, stating clearly for myself things I would no longer tolerate or accept in my life, all the things that I aspired to become as I moved on to the new version of me. Probably, all my “shoulds”, “don’ts”, “woulds”, “does”,”dos”, “wills”, and “haves”, etc are consciously written down. It “could” be to loss some pounds of weight through exercising or dieting. “Should” get more confident. “Will” earn more money to support my new goals. “Do” more of reading and meditation. “Won’t” go for a date for some weeks. “Have” more time for myself or relationship. All these will make up my new standards as I’m consciously moving forward to the new person I set to become.
“Raising your standards is not about being the best among others. It’s about having a healthy level of self-respect”— Uche Mba
Comparing myself with other people’s standards is just a waste of time, because what I feels and wishes for myself can never be the same with theirs. If I compared myself with people that I’m much better than; it would make me feel or look like a king or superior to them. Or if I compared myself with those who are doing much better than me; it would make me feel like I’m not striving like them. Doing that won’t make any long lasting change in my consciousness; rather it would make me feel like I’m in competitions with others.
The only best and most accurate question to ask myself when raising my standards is this; am I doing my best with the recourses I have within me currently? If the answer is yes, I have nothing to regret or ashamed of, no matter how other people will view my results. For many years, I suffered from low self esteem and feelings of not having confidence on myself. Talking to strangers was a big challenge to me back then. In my University’s days I couldn’t date or have stable relationship during my undergraduate programs. All these happened to me because I was living on a low level standards. We all have been there.
But after 8 years of conscious personal development and try and errors experiences I went through, my standards are much higher and better off now. I’ve made tremendous progress, and in some areas of my life it’s fair to say my results easily fall into the top 1%. This website you’re reading now is among the top 21% in terms of personal development and lifestyle goal I set for myself. My personal relationship with others have improved tremendously. I can now easily initiate conversations with strangers. Probably, ask for a date if I think it’s necessary with any lady I found attractive. And I’ve certainly read more books than 99% of my age mates. But I don’t set my standards by the habits of others. That isn’t what I need to grow, and it isn’t what you need either.
As I move forward on the path of growth, there are always periods where I slide a bit in one area while my focus is elsewhere, but the long-term trend is to continue raising my standards without limit. I want my best to continue getting better. I always have my eye on the next step.
Just make some list of things you would no longer tolerate or accept, that’s where it starts. Raising your standards required that you started noticing things that were previously below your level of awareness. You have to first become aware of what you needed to change. For example, if you discover you are not happy and fulfilled in your current relationship or job. Why are you still there? How long would you be in place where you are not happy about? What’s holding you back from raising your standards? Are you aware that your current standards won’t change your lifestyle that much? Now ask yourself what if you succeed if you then raise your standards to experience new things in your life? You don’t have to compare yourself with anyone, only your feelings would tell you if your current standards are still needful to you or they need to be changed.
“Let your actions prove that you’re committed to living life on a new level. Get rid of the people and thoughts that confine you to an average existence. Raise your standards and aim for greatness.” — Tony Robbins
What if am to ask you, “Are you doing your best?” and you honestly answer, “No, I’m not?” Then you’ve got some problems. But don’t feel bad at yourself, I’ve been there to. Just know you have unused potential that you’re just wasting because you aren’t conscious of your standards. You’re living below your capacity. Probably this is because you’ve defined your current standards based on what you see in other people or what you watched TV like (ZEEWORLD African magic and other stuffs like that). If you’re among the intelligent people reading this blog, it’s fair to say your standards for living are already well above average. Who cares? You’ll get no gifts from me reading my post but I’m only opening your eyes to see beyond your imaginations things you never thought you could learn from me. Is that the best you can do? Surely you’re capable of outperforming or becoming who you are at the moment. What other people are doing is irrelevant. You know you’re capable of more, so step up and claim those results. If you don’t want that excess capacity for yourself, then do as I’m doing and give it away to the world. Use it to make a difference in someone else’s life. Help other people who are average or below average reach the level you’ve achieved. There are people in the world who would give almost anything to have what you take for granted as normal. Why not help some of them?
As individuals we’re capable of becoming more of what we are today, each of us in our own unique way can achieve more if we can raise our standards to live an exceptional life. We can do this by discovering our strengths and developing them to the level of genius; contributing by serving the highest good of all in making the world a better place to live in. We move forward in life by raising our standards consciously each day because through our standards a new us to be born into this world. Think about the consequence of those men and woman who raised their standards in different professions or careers of their choices and note their achievements in that field. That same power which was available to them is still available for you, only if you have the courage to claim your power to live exceptionally today. Also note that changing an organization, a company, a country or changing the world begins with the simple steps of raising one’s standards to live an exceptional life. You too can do it.
Sometimes, if you’re following this path, you may hear some strange warning or side talks from people around you. Please don’t let the warnings get into your head. Ignore it. The new path isn’t for them, but for you. All you need to do is look around the world and see where the new path is taking you, and then rejoice because you’re on the right track. In order to make some difference in the world, you must move beyond what’s normal and do some extra ordinary stuff to live an exceptional life. Raising your standards should be your life goals, and living below your standards should never be a choice if you dare to live an exceptional life. If this article got you motivated, please kindly click share button below to share it to any social media of your choice. Note, “a candle losses nothing by lightning another candle”. For additional articles to raise your standards read my post tilted Don’t Disqualify Yourself, Try First
I know I can do better in my relationships with others, spirituality, finances, behaviors, career path, character development, service to humanity, and I will. And I know you can do better too. Now will you do it?
Until Next Time, Live Exceptionally!