I started a goal setting process in the year 2012, as I listened to late Jim Rohn audio cassette and mp3 goal setting programs many years ago. And the impact of getting my goals clearly written down each year has helped me stayed focus and accomplished them, even before the designated time for each. Writing my goals down and reading them to myself once a week made me to recondition my brain to attract stuffs and people who helped me reach them. Also, I’ve learned how to let go of people and things that aren’t helping me live a better life. My goals then was set on every aspect of life; which includes Career Goal, Financial Goal, Relationship Goal, Home and Family Goal, Physical Fitness Goal, Personal Development/Education Goal, Social Life Goal, Romantic/Emotional Life Goal, Spiritual and Beliefs Goal, Behavior/Character Goal, Contribution Goal, and Fun and Adventure Goal. This is my person list of goals I designed for myself; you can consciously reduce or increase your own depending how you wish to figure things for yourself.
At the beginning of each year, I always took time to write down things I wanted for myself and things I would no longer accept in my life. And having those goals listed down and read them to myself each week gave me some worth of clarity to start creating a new life for myself. It was a great channel reconnecting back to things I truly want because I was certain of my destination within the time frame I set to accomplish the goals. Within me, I was forced to stop doing things and stay away from individuals who aren’t in alignment with my goals. I activated a new life pattern because my goals are clarified in my brain. It’s normal and very much ok to accept being lonely for a particular period of time because you let go of people and things that are not adding value to your life, rather they are disempowering you from not accomplishing the goals you set for yourself.
A man, who rose from a bankrupt cotton farmer in the 1930s to a multi-billionaire when he died in the 1974, was once asked during a TV interview what advice he could give to others who wanted to be financially successful. He said only two things are required from them. First, you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish. But most people never do that, they buy into society idea and pattern of living. And secondly, you must determine what price you’ll have to pay to get it, and then resolve to pay that price. The two requirements to be successful implies in every aspect of life depending on the kind life and legacy you want for yourself. The ideas are simple; know what you want and determine to pay the price to get it. But for some people it’s very much easy for them to state what they want but paying the price in the big problem. Resolving and sticking to your resolution are very important in goal accomplishment.
Clarity of goals and objectives are important to the success of any accomplishment in life, and this is no less true of building your own career and relationship life with others. If you don’t take time to get really clear about exactly what it is you’re trying to accomplish, then you’re forever doomed to spend your life achieving the goals of those who do. In the absence of a clear direction for your life, you will either meander aimlessly or you will build a career that you don’t feel good about. You may make some money or do some interesting work, but the end result will not resemble anything you ever made a conscious decision to build, and ultimately you will be left with the sinking feeling that maybe you took a wrong turn somewhere along the way. Do you ever look at your career, relationship, finance, family, behavior, physical fitness, intellectuality, social life romantic life/Emotions, spirituality/beliefs system and service to mankind and think yourself, “How on earth did I get here?” Have you ever look at yourself in a mirror and think yourself, “How Do I do look this way?”
Then, if setting goals is so important, why is it that so few people take time to define exactly what they want and where they want to go in life? Well, part of the reason is lack of knowledge about how to set clear goals. You can go through life or years of schooling and never receive any instruction on goal setting at all because most people who are teaching us don’t even know anything about goal setting. Most people keep living in default from years to years without pushing any clear goal they set for themselves. And a failure to understand the immense important of establishing clear goal is also common to all. But those who truly know what they want often outperform everyone else by an enormous degree of certainty.
A common thing that leads to goal setting failure is fear of making mistake. “Teddy Roosevelt” once said, In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing. Setting visible goal at all time is better than drifting aimlessly with no clear direction. And the best way I know to welcome failure in someone’s life is to avoid making clear, committed decisions about what one want for his or herself. Every day is already a mistake if you don’t know where you’re going. Maybe you’re probably spending most of your time working to achieve other people’s goals. For example, spending your time watching TV, playing video games, going for movie, etc. if you don’t decide what you truly want for yourself, then you’ve already decided to hand your future over to the whims of others who have clear goals for themselves, and that’s always a big mistake you can do to yourself. But by taking hold of yourself and deciding what you want and where you would like to go, you gain a tremendous sense of control that most people never experience in their entire lives.
Commit Your Goals To Writing
Real goals must be in writing in the form of positive, present-tense, personal affirmations. A goal that is not committed to writing is just a fantasy. Set goals for what you want and where you want to go in life, not for what you don’t want. Your subconscious mind can lock onto a clearly defined goal only if the goal is well defined in positive terms. If you put your focus on what you don’t want instead of what you, you’re likely going to attract exactly what it is you’re trying to avoid. Best way to have set a clear goal is to phrase your goals as if they are already achieved. Instead of saying, “I will earn N5,000,000 this year” phrase it in the present tense: “I earn N5,000,000 this year.” If you phrase your goals in the future terms, you’re sending a message to your subconscious mind to forever keep that outcome in the future, just beyond your grasp. Try to avoid wishy-washy words like “probably, “should” “could” “would” “might” or “may” when forming your goals. Because such words foster doubt as to whether you can really achieve what you are after. Also, try as much as you can to make your goals personal. You cannot set goals for other people; rather you set goals for yourself based on what you want and where you want to go in life.
Goal Accomplishment Requires Activities
Setting goals is not a passive act. It doesn’t happen over night or automatically. For you to reach your goals, you must take direct conscious action in order to accomplish it. In goal accomplishment, everything counts, and nothing is neutral. You are either moving towards your goals, or you’re moving away from them. If you do nothing or if you act without clarity, then you are almost certainly a victim of being outgoaled. In other words, you’re spending most of your time working on other people’s goals without even knowing it. For example, you could be happily working to enrich your landlord if your goal is only just to pay your rent. Each day you spend working without sense of clarity about where you’re headed is a step backwards for you. If you don’t actively tend your garden, then weeds will grow automatically. Remember, weeds don’t need to be watered or fertilized. They just grow by themselves in the absence of an attentive gardener. Similarly, in the absence of conscious and directed action on your part, your work and your life will automatically become full of weeds. You don’t need to do anything at all to make this happen. And when you finally get around to taking a serious look at where you are and where you want to go, the first thing you will have to do is pull out all those weeds and redirect your life to a positive way.
Note, reading this post will do absolutely nothing for you unless you turn it into some form of physical action by getting started with your goal setting process beginning from today. The best thinking without action unfortunately will always give you zero results. In reality, you won’t even be rewarded any penny for your thoughts. You can have the most creative ideas in the world, but ideas alone are not enough. You only get results from the physical actions you take by setting goals and working hard to accomplish them, never for just having ideas. In order to get any kind of tangible results in your life at all, you must act on your ideas through goal setting. You must communicate it, write it down, build it, implement it, and make it real.
Until Next Time, Live Exceptionally!!!