On every June of every year all over the world, we celebrate father’s day to mark and acknowledge the impacts of our fathers in our families and global development. We do this to encourage our fathers to do more in human capacity development and infrastructures to save humanity from collapsing. Our fathers set good figures that governed our families and entire world, and also make sure we follow through such figures to live exceptional life. Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds and the influence of fathers in society.
Each family on their own also celebrates their fathers as the head of their family and their contributions towards the growth of their family. At the other hand, some men are not being celebrated during the father’s day because they aren’t worthy to be called Fathers. They give in to the forces of life, which make them to live a low life without contributing for the growth of their family and entire world respectively. Such men failed to take full responsibility for their family and also denied their children a good father figure while growing up.
Are you a real father to your family? What’s your impact in your family and in the entire world respectively? Are you a real man? How strong and committed are you in raising your children and giving great figure? Are you taking 100% full responsibility for your family? How do people see your impacts in your children up bringing? Is your family proud of you to be called their father? In this post I’m going to share ideas on how real men live their lives influence others. And it’s all start by answering the question; who is a real man?
What does it means to be a real man? How can men in our today’s world consciously express their masculinity to influence others positively? What’s the most kindness way for a man to live and express himself to others without being bias? How does real man live their lives? What does real men make priority in their daily life? What’s the dream of a real man? Below are my ideas on how real men live their lives to influence others:
Real Men Put God First
No matter how we claimed to be busy in our daily activities and endeavors, a real man always put God first in whatever he’s doing in life. He knows that his source is always from God, and once he’s in good relationship with God all his needs would be taken care of. A real man stands are a source of power to his family because he grounded himself with God’s purpose for his life. He makes sure his family developed strong relationship with their creator. He supports his family spiritually, and teaches them the way of God and how to please Him. A real man talk to God about his family in prayers and ask God for divine guidance and provisions for his family. He honor God with his money, by supporting the work of God, Supporting Charity Organizations, Giving to less privilege people, and other services that support helping others.
Real Men Put their Relationships Second
After putting God first, a real man put his relationship with others second to enable him think like a freeman and make adjustment whenever it’s necessary. Life will test a man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of own principles. A real man will be offered many temptations by nature to expose all his true loyalties, either tom himself, family and others. A real man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, purpose, passion, vision, big dreams, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever a real man scarifies his integrity, he loses his freedom as a free thinker.
A real man knows he must commit to his family by taking full responsibility that comes with greater challenge of raising his family. He knows that when he gives up to his duty as a man or fails to take full responsibility of his family, he becomes something less than a real man. When others observe that a real man is strongly committed to his values and ideas, he gains their trust and respect, though some of these trust and respect doesn’t come directly to him, but people think and see him as the real man. And the surest way for any man to lose respect and trust from others, as well as himself, is when he violates his own values, principles and rules.
Real Men Tries New Things Always
No matter how we tried to put this off or deny it, a real man always try new approach of getting things done. He keeps opening himself to new ideas, learning things on a daily basis to sharpen his skills and talents. A real man is always will to make mistakes. He’s willing and ready to be wrong at times. He would rather try and fail than to do nothing at all.
A real man’s self-trust is one of his greatest and profound assets to continued being who he is. Whenever he doubts himself by worrying so long on his past failures, he diminishes himself and brings himself down to nothing. A real man considers the prospect of his failures, but he doesn’t put himself with pointless worries about it. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs during his journey to success, he can possibly deal with it because he knows that life a mixed up with ups and downs. A real man grow more often through his daily failures than he does from his success. He knows that temporary success cannot test his resolve in the way that failures can. He knows that success has its challenges, but a real man learns more about himself when he takes more risks and absolves challenges as part of the game.
Real Men Make Real Decisions
When it comes to decisions making, a real man don’t wait for anybody before they could take positive decisions that will influence their lives positively. A real man understands and respects the power of choice and makes best ones for himself always. A real man lives a life of his own creation by focusing passionately making real decisions that will save his future unlike ordinary man that lives based on other people’s decisions. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide for himself to enable him flourishes on a clear path he chooses.
When a real man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He back off to things that won’t support him in getting close to his destinations. He chooses his friends and associates consciously. He knew he can grow, remain, or fall by the decisions he makes daily, and then he thrive to make real ones that will guarantee living an exceptional life.
Real Men Keeps Open and Honest Relationship
A real accepts 100% full responsibility for his relationships by consciously choosing his friends, lovers, and associates. He actively expresses his love openly and honestly to create genuine connections with others. He actively seeks out to establish some companies of people who inspires, motivates, as well as challenged him to live an exceptional life. He’s always willing to sheds and blocks those who hold him back in life.
A real man doesn’t blame others for his relationship problems. When his relationship is no longer compatible, he initiates a repair process and gives his partner room to make their own decisions. He is always open for adjustment to accommodate others with his values and rules. A real man holds himself accountable for the outcome of the relationship he allows into his life. Also he holds others accountable for their behavior, but holds himself accountable for tolerating such behaviors from others. He teaches others how to treat him by the relationship he’s willing to allow into his life. He refuses to fill his life with negative or destructive relationship that could have negative impacts on him in the future.
Real Men Are Confident on Themselves
A real man always speaks and acts confidently in the real world. He owns his attitude, character, behavior and respects. A real man doesn’t adopt a confident posture of others because he knows he will succeed once he’s committed with his goals. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome sometimes and see it as a teaching tools. Even when everyone is against him, he’s always confident in himself to push on and get things down as required from his standards and values. He build his courage and persistence as set them as his strong allies to rely on whenever he has nobody to help him.
A real man is willing to accept defeat from the real world because he knows that for him to reach his goals, he must pass through tough times and huddles to get to where is going. He’s willing to acknowledge the ups and downs beyond his control from the real world. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. He knows that when he stops trusting himself, he’s surely going lost out from the game of life. He always surrenders to fate when necessary, but won’t surrender to his fears.
Real Men Re-channel Their Sex Energy
A real man is careful not to allow his sexual energy to get him stuck at the level of lost. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve him higher values instead of just his selfish desire to have sex always. A real man doesn’t hide his sexuality power, rather he re-channel it to his talents and passion. If others shrink from him because he’s energy, he allows them to have their ways. He believes there’s no need for him to lower his energy just to avoid some people. He accepts the consequences of being male; he makes no apologies for his nature. A re-channeled sexual energy pushed a real man to pursuits his heart-centered dreams. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still without being motivated and inspired from within. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals.
Real Men Faces their Fears Consciously
A real man makes peace with his fears. He makes friends who like taking risks to bring down their fears to nothing. He doesn’t hide or run away from tests his fears. Rather he turns toward them and engages them boldly to overcome them. A real man knows his called to be tested with his fears in the real world. Whenever he hides from his fears, he consciously knows he’s falling out alignment with his true self. He feels weak, depressed, and helpless. No matter how hard he tries to comfort himself to achieve a state of peace, he cannot overcome his inner feelings of dread. A real man knows only when facing his fears will he experience peace.
A real man succeeds or fails whenever he tries to overcome his fears. He feels like a real man whenever he faces the right way, staring straight his fears. He feels even more like a man when he advances in the direction of his fears, as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream.
Real Men Expresses Love Actively, Not Passively
A real man is an active giver of love and affections, not a passive receiver of it. He is the first to initiate a conversation, the first to ask for what’s needed, and the first to say “I love you”. He doesn’t wait for someone else to take the lead of expressing love, he just do it. He knows that the universe doesn’t respond positively to hesitation, rather to active givers. He knows that now is the only moment to express his love actively to others, and does that without feeling guilty of doing so.
A real man knows he’s a source of energy to those around him and it’s his job, his duty to share his love energy with the world. He must allow the love energy to flow from the source with God, through him as a person, and into the world. He assumes this role and has no doubt he is for sure living an exceptional life.
Real Men Die Well
A real man always give his best to the world while his still alive, and such service to mankind allow him to make peace with death whenever it’s at his door. A real man is not afraid of death because he knows that one day each of us will leave this planet earth. Rather he sees life as an adventure that would come to an end one day. A real man greatest challenge in life is to develop his inner strength that would enable him expresses his true self while on planet earth. He’s willing to share his love, ideas, wisdom, passion, purpose etc. with the world without holding back. Whenever he’s satisfied by his contributions to mankind, he would peacefully make peace with death and be ready to die whenever death meets him. But if didn’t live well from his childhood to old age, he then see death as an enemy and becomes afraid of it all the days of his life.
A man can not die well unless he lived well. A real man lives well when he accepts his mortality and draws strength from knowing that his physical existence is temporary. When he faces and accepts the inevitability of death; when he learns to see death as his ally instead of his enemy… he’s finally able to express his true self. So a man is not ready to live well as a real man as he accepts that’s already dead but just as a matter of time and conditions.
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