Reconditioning or Reprogramming Yourself to Succeed

“Whatever circumstances you were born into, whatever family life and education you had or didn’t have, you came here to make your dreams come true, and no matter where you are now, you are fully equipped with everything you to do it”. — From The Secret

After few days of being away from here due to some other engagements I ventured into, I decided to write and post this article to help those who are still ignorant of it, to enable them start taking conscious steps on how to recondition or reprogram their minds to succeed. Self reconditioning or reprogramming on layman understanding simply means, to service readjust, and recalibrate equipment or instruments to bring them to near-new or original operational level. Reconditioned goods are of later model and usually in better condition than refurbished goods.

But in psychology or metaphysics, we understand that the human brain is prone to negativity, and it’s also flexible, which is why we can reprogram or recondition it to be happy and successful by taking conscious actions daily to focus on what we want from life. There are certain kinds of key experience that address main issues in reprogramming or reconditioning self. For example, experience of relaxation, calming, or feeling protected, strong and resourceful, by reconditioning ourselves consciously we can be able to keep our body system self to help us figure out how to accomplish our goals. And having internalized this process again and again through sense of calmness and mediation, we’re going to be more able to face situations at work or life generally with openness without getting so rattled by them, or without being locked into the reactive mode of our brain.

Are you living the life you have always wanted to live? Or have you settled in the status qou? Have you ever looked at other people and wondered why are they successful than others? Have you being seeing yourself moving in circles and never taken any bold steps to improve your life? How often do you see yourself feeling haplessness about your life situations because you thought and believed you don’t have power over them? Are you still thinking that some people have the midas touch, every opportunity that comes their way they can possibly turn it to gold? Some might even say it’s pure luck while others believe that it’s because their upbringings or connections with other. But we still see those who started from scratch on their own or little help from others and still became successful years of hard work and dedications.   

Most of us have a vague idea of what we think we deserve and can have in our lives to live happily. But whenever we couldn’t meet up our hopes and dreams of living or having a great lifestyle we think we deserve, we often become frustrated and get upsets on ourselves and others. Why is this happening to us? We wonder. And such situations or discontent can become so powerful and force us to make some personal changes in our consciousness. But discontent is a double-edge sword. Many of us end up turning our frustrations and upsets against ourselves, sabotaging any potential success we might have accomplished if our mind is stable or in a conscious state. We start thinking that we deserve better, and we may work a little harder for a few days, but rather than take action and strive for a lasting change, we drop right back down to where we think we should be, most especially, in our careers, our finances, our relationships, our health, and our general sense of well-being.

Whether you realized it or not, the negative experiences you have lived through often influence your decisions. Your brain learns a lot from difficult situations and painful memories, and these experiences get sealed into your brain influences your daily decisions making. Your brain naturally wants to do whatever it can to protect you from being hurt by avoiding a recurrence of the negative experience. On the other hand, by continually focusing on the negativity can hinder our ability to find positives reasons to live a happy life.

Success is based on recognizing and going after opportunities as they present themselves to us and that often requires our ability to have the strong inner fortitude take chance and navigate difficulties during the process. Once we’re positive about life, the better chances of finding lasting success and happiness in all we do. All it takes is some self reprogramming or reconditioning to rewire your brain towards success. 

Most often, you may be involved in situations where you know what you should be doing, but you’re having a tough time getting yourself to do it. Or perhaps you’re able to get started on a task, but you just can’t seem to maintain the momentum to see it through the end. If such problems continue for too long, you’re bound to start to see some bad effects on your overall confidence level to keep going. You may begin thinking you have a motivation problems, as if maybe you just don’t want to succeed badly enough.

One solution to this problem is self reconditioning or reprogramming, which comes in two primary forms: thought conditioning and behavioral conditioning. The thought conditioning focuses on controlling your thinking process and what you do with your thoughts. This is a cognitive model of success, by relying on the assumption that if you think the right thoughts, you will take the right actions, and thereby the rights actions will get the results you desired. For example, Such thoughts conditioning includes, speaking or reading positive affirmations daily, visualizing for a positive outcome in all you do, vocabulary transformation( i.e choosing positive words to describe your situations and opposed the negative words). And many situations, thought conditioning is very effective, particularly when problematic thoughts are the root of the problem, such as a negative attitude causing you to take advantage of others in all your dealings with them.

On the other hand, behavioral conditioning comes from a behavioral model of success we learned from successful people, that means doing or following the steps of those we found to be successful in their chosen careers. This model assumes that if you take the correct actions, you will achieve the results you want, regardless of what your thoughts are. Behavioral conditioning focuses on forming new habits of action with little concern for what you think. Many behaviorists believe that if you take the right actions, the right thoughts will follow anyway. Examples of behavioral conditioning includes, setting your alarm clock to wake you up each morning, giving yourself a tangible reward for working an extra couple of hours, focusing of your goals till completion, learning methods on how to use less time and effort to achieve more daily, or punishing your child for misbehaving.

I have used both forms of conditioning with great success and I’m confident enough to share the outcomes for others to learn from it. During my days in the university, I used mostly used thought conditioning to get myself focused with studies and during exams period. Today, however, take I advantages of behavioral conditioning because I have a lot of people I’m looking up. Probably my mentors and those who I admires their lifestyles, because learning about what they do and how they are doing it would enhance my motivations and also give me some clue on how to figured it out on my own. For me, I found the behavioral conditioning is more effective and faster. One of the major problems with thought conditioning is that if you fail to the take the right actions quickly, then your behavior can de-condition the very thoughts you’re trying to adopt. For example, if you’re trying to attract a mate in your life, and you focus on thinking you’re in love already and do some daily affirmations to that effect, but you keep treating ladies badly or find it difficult to open a conversations with a lady in the meantime, then you’re sending mixed messages to your subconscious mind, and you will most likely be un-attracted to ladies. Your continued behavior is an affirmation too.

But if you can manage to physically stop abusing ladies or even start seeing them as people you can have normal conversation with, that behavior will tend to induce thoughts of being a good match for good ladies. Behavioral conditioning works best when you merely changing your behavior regardless of how you think, is enough to guarantee a positive result. For example you stop making impulse purchases; you will save money, regardless of what you think about it. When you get yourself to take the right actions, even when you aren’t sure or initially motivated to do so, you will find that your motivations automatically grows.

The basic idea behind behavioral conditioning is control and substitution of our behaviors. Just figure out what actions you need to take to get the results you want or desires. Then condition yourself to take those actions. You’re always behaving some way already- so make sure your behavior will give you the results you want. If you aren’t behaving in a manner that’s in alignment with your goals, then take control of the situation and substitute the correct behavior for the bad ones. It’s your life, sometimes only can figure out how feels and how you behave most often. Choose a constructive behaviors that will congruent with your goals to enable you achieve them faster.

Here, the problem is that most people unknowingly condition behaviors that will hurt them in future or guarantee mediocre results. For example, when I started my teaching job in 2014, my monthly salary was N25, 000 and in the same school they are other people the owner of the school pays below N20, 000 monthly and those people have been there for years as a teachers. For them, collecting below N20, 000 per month is just OK for them and they are comfort with such amount of money, because they have conditioned their mind to live a low life. Even till today, most of them are still there in that school collecting same amount. But for me, I told myself, that would be the list amount of money I will collect as salary working others. Though I felt very bad accepting to collect such low amount, but I tried to forgive myself because I just needed to start up something after graduation from the university.

 After few months of receiving N25, 000 as a monthly salary, I started posting advertisement seeking to get a private teaching job as Mathematics and Chemistry teacher respectively, which turnout to be a good one. I made extra N12, 000 in private teaching job for teaching few students who are preparing to write their WAEC (West Africa Examination Council). In addition with my N25, 000 monthly salaries, my monthly income increased to N37, 000 then. But since then, I’ve strive to recondition and reprogram myself through the thought conditioning and behavioral conditioning which pushed me to raised my financial standard up to Six Figure income per year now.

When reconditioning or reprogramming your brain to succeed, you’ve to limit negative influence in your in your environment because they won’t allow you to make changes. They negative actions will have some effects in your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is constantly absorbing information from outside sources and using such information to form beliefs that shape how you think and behave. Negativity from the daily news, toxic people and social media can have huge or profound effect on your subconscious mind without you even knowing about it consciously. Reconditioning or reprogramming yourself to succeed is a perfect way to work below the surface and remove roadblocks that are holding you back to succeed.  

Look back your behavior over these past months and years. Have your results been congruent with your actions? If you spend the next month behaving totally differently, will it change your results or outcomes? Where do you see incongruencies between the results you want and your current habits of behavior? What changes would you like to make to get you what you want from life? Are you conscious of your thoughts and actions? How often do you take self behavioral test? Are your thoughts directing you to your goals achievement or moving you away from them? What’s your current level of thinking conditioning and behavioral conditioning? What does your perfect day look like? How do you want your big presentation at work to go? How exactly do you want your first date look like in your ideas of attracting a mate to your life? Pick something you are truly committed to make a reality and spend 20-45 minutes daily visualizing it as if it has already happened in your life. Your subconscious mind will absorb the feelings in your mind images as if they were really giving you the inner confidence you required or needed to make them come true in your life. True power comes from within, and reconditioning the subconscious mind reprograms you to succeed.

Your mind is the key to your success and you’ve the power to learn how to reprogram or recondition your subconscious to get what you want from life. If you want to live the life you desire, then, now it’s the time to decide for yourself, commit to the arts of living exceptional life and resolve to go for it. It’s not what we can do in life that makes the difference, but what we will do to get to our destinations. And it starts now. There is no better time to take control of your mind rather than now and set your sights on something better right now.


Until Next Time, Live Exceptionally!

Creating Your Own Milky-Way Through Enterprising

Last week I had a conversation with a friend who started her own business with little money few years of being unemployed after her National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), she was telling me how she has grown her business to take care of her bills and most of her personal needs. According to her, starting up the business was a great task for her; there were times she wanted to quit because she weren’t convinced that her products would get other people’s attention rather than hers. But after months and years of self doubts and lack of self-confidence, she braced up to create her own milky-way through enterprise which is transforming her life daily. She made up her mind to move out of her comfort zone and today she’s making good money from the business. She’s passionate about her business today because she conquered her spirit of unbelief and empowered herself to developed her ideas and turn it into business.

Initially, she told me earlier on that her intentions were to go into the labour market, seek for job opportunities, maybe either to work in a private sector or any government parastatal throughout her life and retire at the old age. But after years of being unemployed she had a turnaround in what she thought was the best approach for her and started doing something with the little money she had. Her sister was her first customer she sold her product to, then her sister talked to someone about the products that was how sales began through referrals. She told me that she charged lesser price for her products compared to what the similar products are been sold in the market, not that her products are of lesser quality but she’s using that strategy to build her business network and brand name. And such ideas have been working for her within the few months she has been in business.

What is an enterprising person? These individuals like to work with people, influence, persuade, lead or manage for organizational goals or economic gain. An enterprising personality type is often a leader who is talented at organizing, persuading and managing. They enjoy money, power, status and being in charge. Being enterprising is not just about starting or running a business. Entrepreneurial behavior and enterprise skills are also useful during university studies and sought after by graduate employers for many types of organizations. Enterprising skills or attributes include: Creative and innovative.

Creating Opportunity Through Enterprise

“An enterprising person is one who comes across a pile of scrap metal and sees the making of a wonderful sculpture. An enterprising person is one who drives through an old decrepit part of town and see a new housing development” Jim Rohn

To become an enterprise person, you must start seeing things in a certain way and resolve to do things differently to create a life of your dream. Because through enterprising, you would discover new things about you, learn how to use your skills and talents to create your own milky-way that will guarantee a perfect lifestyle.  An enterprising person is one who sees opportunity in all areas of life because he or she no longer thinks like ordinary person on the street. To be enterprising is to keep your eyes open and mind active on the things of life and use hard times to build your strength that would keep your mind alive when others are complaining.  It’s to be skilled enough, confident enough, creative enough and disciplined to seize opportunities that present themselves to you…regardless of the economy.

A person with an enterprising attitude says; find out what you can before action is taken. Do your homework. Do the research on what you’re passionate about. Learn the basics and explore new strategies. Leverage through internet and referrals. Be prepared for the bigger task ahead of you. Be resourceful to know when to say yes and when to use your initiatives. Do all you can in preparation of what’s to come. Then do it, don’t wait for too long. It mustn’t be accepted by all at the beginning but do it anyway. It mustn’t be a perfect one at first but do it excellently to the best of your knowledge. Once you’re strong enough to conquer self doubts, limiting beliefs, lack of self-confidence and fear of success, your products will speak for you and take care of the rest.

Enterprising people always see the future in the present and take advantage of it to create what others would need in the future. Enterprising people always find a way to take advantage of any situation they found themselves and not burdened by it. They aren’t lazy when it comes to take responsibilities. They don’t wait for perfect opportunities to come to them often; they swallow their pride and go after opportunities to create their own milky-ways. Being an enterprise means always finding a way to keep your actively working towards your life dreams and ambitions. It’s like making yourself available for the game of success and pay the price it would required from you.

Personally, making money from different streams of income has been my motivations and ideal motive of becoming an enterprise because I don’t wait for monthly paycheck anymore before I receive money. I make money while others are sleeping. I make money through the systems I built few years ago that generate money for me. It’s all begins with the idea of living an exceptional life. When you think differently, your results would be different from what an ordinary man on the street. You don’t have to wait for someone’s approval before you could start thinking as enterprise. You’ve to give yourself permission to design a life of your choice and work on yourself daily to discipline and develop an attractive personality. What you’ve become since you were born till now is as a result of choices in life you’ve made from childhood till date. You can decide today to reclaim your power over fear and start recreating your life to live exceptionally.

What are you capable of? What are you passionate about? What are your dreams? Can you write, read, dance, sing, play, swim, drive, design, draw, paint? What are your gifts? What are your talents? Are you a fast learner? What’s your dream? What are you doing with your free time? How are you expressing your creative abilities to the world? Are you using skills, gift, talent and knowledge to help others? Is what you’re doing today the best thing you could with your life? Have you ever allow yourself to explore your potentials? What’s your true identity as a conscious being? What does it mean to be an enterprise in your own definitions?  How long are you going to continue living like this? What would your children learn from you as they are growing to face their life challenges? What’s your ideal life definition? Are you enterprising today?

Two Things About Being an Enterprise

Being enterprising and entrepreneurial involves spotting an unexploited opportunity and making the most of it: essentially, identifying a gap in the market and filling it. Enterprise and entrepreneurial skills are effectively a combination of other competencies and abilities, including: commercial awareness. The first phase of enterprise is spirit of creativity. Enterprising people use their creative abilities to create and design their milky-ways. You need creativity to see what’s out there and reshape it to your advantage. With your create abilities, you will always see the world with a different eyes lens and build your fortune from others may think are not valuable. You need creativity to take different approaches, strategies and measures to unlock the door of success. When visualize in your mind what you want from life, creativity will give you clue on how to go about your dreams and ambitions.

For example, I’ve never been in any class to learn about computer and how to use since my life. All I do with computer today is as a result of passion and desire to live exceptionally. I try my best to develop my skills with computer because in today’s world if you aren’t computer literate, your chance of succeeding in internet business is at risk. I never learned how to design how to design a website but I know the kind of website I want and how I want it to look like and with try and error method, my website is providing values today all over the world. I never waited for the perfect time before I could start. I never waited for an opportunity to go to web design classes before I could start doing something with ideas, though the classes are still necessary. So, to become an entrepreneur, you must be creative and willing to fail many times before getting it right. Just start anyway, the learning and developing process will guide and inspire you to accomplish your task.

The courage to be creative is one of the additional strength an enterprise requires to be successful. You need courage to see things differently from others. You need courage to take up new task and stick to it until completion. You need courage to move out of your comfort zone and take different approach. You need courage to choose activity over inactivity. You need courage to read this article to the end and share it with those you love. You need courage to learn and develop new skills to accomplish your goals.

Second phase of enterprise is you have the choice to design a lifestyle of your own. Being enterprise doesn’t just not only relate to the ability to make money. Being enterprise also means choosing or designing a perfect lifestyle for yourself, because you choose your play cards and cask them consciously. It also means feeling good enough about yourself, having enough self worth to want to want to seek advantages and opportunities that will make a difference in your future. And by doing so, you will increase your confidence, your courage, your creative ability, your self-worth and your enterprising nature.

My life is filled with great friends who make great living through enterprising, and I’ve been learning about their lifestyle and values. On the other hand, I’ve friends who earn their living through paycheck. Also, I still have those friends who combined both, but the differences based on freedom and lifestyle. Enterprising people have time for their personal life and the life of their loved ones. They choose when to work and when to have time with family. We see them contribute in nation building by reducing employments because of the jobs they create for others. They goals are always to serve the highest good of all.  

You gain strength, courage and confidence by the experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face and go for your dreams. No one will do this for you, and enterprising is a choice. Let me remind you if you’ve forgotten, you are able and capable to say to yourself, I’ve lived through this horror and small life for a long time. I can take the next step to learn about enterprising and start taking advantage of present opportunities to create my own milky-way. You must do the thing you know you can do already and face your life courageously to build, design and explore other things that would help you accomplish more in life.

Finally, we all have dreams in life and at any point in time; we’re either living our dreams or not living it. We aren’t here just to make earn a living but to grow and help others grow. Let your life be a channel and inspiration through which others would discover their potentials to enable them for their life dreams and also live their life purpose through enterprising. Your milky-ways are waiting, only you discover it and make it perfect one. That’s what make unique and special. Make a conscious decision today to do things differently that will transform your creative ability starting from today.

Until Next Time, Live Exceptionally!

Honoring Success Invitation From The Universe

The universe is always inviting us to succeed in all our endeavors on a daily basis, but only few of us acknowledged the success invitations and became successful. Most people on their own have written themselves off from the success invitations, because they never thought it would be possible for them to be successful in the real life experience. They only believed that the success invitations are for certain grow of people who  they think are most qualified to be successful, and such invitations to be successful are not for them. They gave up their powers of becoming due to self-doubt and limiting beliefs they held in their inner being for years. Those who honored the success invitation always do that by moving out of their own comfort zone, and braking out from their self imposed limiting beliefs to do what’s necessary for them to be successful. They gave out all they have to make sure they succeeded, since they know success is just their birth right and only them can stopped themselves from succeeding. In their subconscious mind, nothing in this life is impossible as long as they can dream about it. They reclaimed their power from fears and past failures to design a new lives for themselves.

What’s your current state of mind at this moment to honor the success invitation from the universe? Have you make up your mind to be successful in life despite what you’ve been through or what you’re passing through right now? Are you ready to move out of your comfort zone and self-defense to honor the success invitation from the universe? What’s holding you back from being successful so far in life? What’s your level of motivation? Are you working on something that would help you to succeed in your chosen endeavors? Do you believe and trust in the path you’ve chosen in life? Or you aren’t sure of the path yet, if you’re on a right one now that would enable you gets to your destination? Are you aware that success is predictable, but only the timing is what makes the difference? How are you going to be feeling in years to come if you succeed by giving in all your best in what you do for a living? What’s the level of your inspirations whenever you wake up from sleep each day? Are you growing each from your past experience to become a better version of yourself? Are you comfortable with your finance, relationship, career and contributions to the entire world right now? Let me get you motivated with an old Story called True Royalty.

True Royalty Story

A beggar lived near the king’s palace. One day he saw a proclamation posted outside the palace gate. The king was giving a great dinner. Anyone dressed in royal garments was invited to the party. The beggar went on his way. He looked at the rags he was wearing and sighed. Sure only kings and their families wore royal robes, he thought. Slowly and idea crept into his mind. The audacity of it made him tremble. Would he dare? He made his way back to the palace. He approached the guard at the gate. Please, Sir, I would to speak to the king “wait here” the guard replied him. In a few minutes, he was back. “His majesty will see you” he said, and led the beggar in. “You wish to see me”? Asked the king. Yes, your majesty. I want so much to attend the banquet, but I have no royal robes to wear. Please, Sir, If I may be so bold, may I have one of your old garments so that I, too, may come to the banquet? The beggar shook so hard that he could not see the faint smile that was on king’s face. “You have been wise in coming to me” said the king. He then called to his son, the young prince. “Take this man to your room and array him in some of your clothes”. The prince did as he was told and soon the beggar was standing before a mirror, clothed in garments that he had never dared for.

“You’re now eligible to attend the king’s banquet tomorrow night” said the prince. But even more important, you will never need any other clothes. These garments will last forever. The beggar dropped to his knees, “oh, thank you” he cried. But as he started to leave, he looked back at his pile of dirty rags on the floor. He hesitated. What if the prince was wrong? What if he would need his old clothes again? Quickly he gathered his pile of dirty rags and set it on fire he leaves the palace. He said, my old pile of dirty rags had kept me as a beggar for years, and now I won’t dare to wear them any more. He said, I’m now a new person with new garments from the prince and I can wine and dine with the royal family. He dared to succeed and he did by honoring king’s dinner banquet invitation.

From the True Royalty story, we’ve learned that the beggar only saw king’s invitation proclamation posted outside the gate. He wasn’t directly invited to honor king’s banquet dinner because Royalty party is not for beggars like him. But he was moved to go beyond his self doubts and limiting beliefs of not good enough, and self qualification to attend the dinner. He didn’t disqualified himself, but he tried anyway. He explored the art of boldness to live an exceptional life from that day. He understood the power of now and noted that something needed to change in him before he could honor the king’s dinner invitation. He was determined to succeed and he did at the end.

What do you think that needed to be changed in you before you could become successful in life? What’s holding you back from giving your dreams some shoots? Are your dreams achievable? Are your dreams obtainable? Are you still allowing other people’s perception about you to stop you from going for your dreams? What if you take the risk and succeeded? What’s your mind telling you to do right now? Read, quit, dance, write, move, invest, teach, contribute, support, hold on, try, and share. What do you need most in life to succeed? Only you know how you feel at this moment and only you can design the life you desire for yourself by consciously honoring success from the universe once it shows up.

Why Some People Are More Successful Than Others?

The answer to the above question is; you’re where you are and what you are because of yourself. Everything you are today, or even will become in the future, is up to you. Your life today is the sum total result of your choices, decisions and actions up to this point. You create your own future by changing your behaviors. You can make new choices and decisions that are more consistent with the person you want to be and the things you want to accomplish with your life.

Success is the ability to live your life the way you want to live it, doing what you most enjoy, surrounded by people who you admire and respect. One of the most important goals you must achieve to be happy and successful in life is the development of your own character. One of your great goals in life should be to develop the habits that lead to health, happiness and true prosperity. Your aim should be to develop the habits of character that enable you to be the very best person that you can imagine yourself becoming.

Whatever you have accomplished in life to this date is only a small fraction of what you are truly capable of achieving. Developing a habit of immediate taking action on any advice or good idea that you received or learned from people you admires. Nothing happens by accident. If you do what other successful people do, you will eventually get the same results that they do. And if you don’t, you won’t. If you want to be happy, healthy, prosperous, popular, positive and confident, just find out how other people who are enjoying these benefits got their way and do the same things that they do. Think the same thoughts. Feel the same feelings. Take the same actions.

If you confidently expect something to happen, this expectation has a powerful effect on your attitude and your personality. The more confident your expectations, the more likely you will see it happening in your life. And one of the wonderful things about expectation is that you can manufacture your own either good or bad. Successful people expect to be successful in advance, that’s why they honored success invitation from the universe. You must develop your mind to hold exciting, positive, emotionalized pictures and images of the exact things you want to see materialized in your life, and in the world around you. The way you think about success and prosperity will be reflected in the result that you enjoy in your career and material life. Everything in your life is controlled and determined by what you are thinking in your inner world. Get ready now to honor success invitation from the universe.

Cleaning The Mental Blocks to Honor Success Invitation

Our daily attitude is what determines our altitude in life. If we keep positive and inspiring attitude every day, our lives will rejuvenate to produce some astonishing results in return. Below are the mental blocks cleaning exercise I used on a daily basis to clean up my mind from negativity and embrace positive attitude each morning to be successful in what I do. These applied in every aspect of my life I strongly believe and hopeful that they will work for you too if you consciously applied them.

I woke up every morning, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have my responsibilities to be fulfilled. My mental state is very important. Then my job is to choose what kind of day I’m going to have.

Each morning I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful the grass is getting water for free. I can feel bad that I don’t have enough money sometimes or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from wasting money on things that are not that important to me. I can grumble about my health or be thankful to God and rejoice that I am alive. I can lament over all that my parents didn’t give me when I was growing up or I can easily feel grateful that they allowed me to be born on this planet earth. I can mourn about lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new friends that could last for life. I can whine because I have to go to work each day or shout for joy that I even have a job to do. I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new knowledge. I can murmur dejectedly because I have a house work to do or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul. Each day stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And I’m always available for the sculptor who gets to do the shaping flow in me. What each day will be like is up to me, I’ve to choose what kind of day I will have..

You can possibly learn from my own mental blocks cleaning up exercise or design yours to get into positive attitude evert day. It’s all started from how we feel about life and ourselves each day. The universe is ready to welcome us into abundance whenever we’re ready to honor its invitation to be successful. You can decide to have a new beginning today by doing what the universe required from you as an individual. Take a bold step to shift your consciousness to honor the success invitation from the universe. Give yourself permission to be successful and live an exceptional life, which is your birth right. Dream big. Hope big. Serve big. Love unconditionally and dare to be successful in your daily endeavors.

Until Next Time, Live Exceptionally!

How to succeed and Achieve Personal Greatness by Helping Others Succeed

In the bible, one day, one of the Jesus disciple came to Him and asked Him, master, how can we achieve personal greatness? That is the secret of achieving wealth and fortune?  For example, how to achieve great power, great influence, great self esteem, great achievement, great recognition and great success.  Here His formula for achieving personal greatness. Jesus said to him, if any of you desired to achieve personal greatness that person must find a way to serve the many, for service to many leads to greatness, for those of you who are interested. Some people are not interested, but the idea and information is this page is for those who are interested to achieve personal greatness.  Now, a lot of people would like to serve the many but they don’t know the way out, or how to go about it. Greatness is being able to help people solve their personal problems without making them think lesser of themselves. It’s up to you to know if you’re ready to become great and successful in any field of your choice or not.  My aim of writing this post is to help people discover how they can develop a way to serve the many. The post is going to be a long one, but if you can scarifies your time to read and digest the information here, it worth it.

The path to greatness consists of having a strong and genuine desire, a good purpose, and also having good people, company, mentor, personal coach, teachers, etc. along the way. People who will help you endure as you walk through life for greatness. It’s a lifelong habit, because the process will help you bring out the greatness in you and in lives of others. Greatness is like being a sponsor, helping someone crossing the bridge from darkness to light. Greatness is helping someone from skeptic to faith, from not knowing to knowing, from not have having confidence to having strong confidence and self esteem. You stand as a bridge helping people transforming their lives. Greatness is about being a person who exerts a positive influence on others and at the same time can become a truly noble and extraordinary person in all walks of life.

When you know what you want, and want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it. Whoever renders service to many puts himself in line for greatness – great wealth, great return, great satisfaction, great reputation, and great joy. “Jim Rohn”

If you truly want to unlock your potential for greatness that lies within you, you may have to make some changes in the way you think. Perhaps the first change needs to be in the way you think about personal greatness.

It makes one a bit uncomfortable to tell someone that i can be great. Personal greatness is not about your believing you can achieve superiority over others. It is not about developing an egoistic, proud attitude of oneself. It is not about being better than other people around us. Personal greatness is about you becoming foundationally great and great in the eyes of others, so that they too may be influenced to be more than they would be without you in their lives.

We seem to use the term “great” all the time. We talk about great friends and the great times we share with them. We talk about the great teachers we have had over the years and how they influenced our lives. We talk about great religious leaders who have built us spiritually. We talk about great books we have read, great movies we have seen, great songs we have heard, great things we have experienced, great lessons we have learned.

The idea of greatness is common to us and we use it to describe people and things that have had a positive influence in our lives. Many, if not most people believe deep down inside that they can be great. There is a small voice continually telling them they can be something special. It is the inner greatness, the inner desire to be one’s best that is at the heart of personal greatness.

Personal greatness has nothing to do with being exceptionally intelligent, rich, famous or politically successful. It is about being a person who exerts positive influence on others. Therefore personal greatness is a matter of unlocking your potential and using your potential in such a way that it overflows into other peoples’ lives to generate positive results. Take a step towards the day when other people will call you great because of the wonderful things you have helped others unlock in their lives.

Take care of yourself before helping others

One of my favorite buddhist principles is the need to take care of yourself before you help others. In Buddhism, when you practice “metta” meditation, you always begin with yourself. You say “May I be happy. May I be free from Anger, hatred, animosity, resentment, and ill will. May I experience real peace, real happiness, and real love.” After you have done this, THEN you can move on to saying the same for friends, family, and eventually strangers and all living creatures. It seems inherently selfish to begin with yourself — but this is an important principle in life.

Before I can help other people succeed, I need to take care of my own inner self. I need to make sure that I am in a good mental state. Only then, once I am in a good place, should I try to help others. Put yourself in a loving mindset first, and then deal with other people.

Applying to Personal Life

I love how this principle applies to work, business, relationships and more. It’s helped illuminate where I’m going wrong, and notice when others do it as well. For example, many of us prioritize our responsibilities to work before taking care of ourselves. We wake up every morning and get to work to help other people or our employers to achieve their personal goals without giving ourselves time for ourselves! Then we get to work and immediately focus on the needs of the people around us. No wonder why frustrations arise! We haven’t taken care of our own minds yet, and now we’re trying to deal with each other!? We move through our day prioritizing the needs of others before our own.

In relationships we sacrifice for our partners without considering our own needs. We feel reluctant to ask for space, when in reality space might be exactly what we need for a healthy relationship.

I believe that this is also especially important if you are running your own business. If you haven’t reached financial stability on your own yet, please don’t hire people. Don’t pay others a salary until you can afford to give yourself one. Pay yourself before you pay others, and if you can’t, or you’re too busy because you can’t, then try a different business. Don’t go into debt for a business that probably won’t work.

Only once you have accomplished this freedom do you have the time, energy, and resources needed to go out and help other people. If you want to make an impact on the world, go earn financial freedom, and then focus your energy on helping others. Remain patient. You don’t need to make your impact in your 20’s — it’s perfectly fine to give back from 30–60 when you have a solid financial foundation and have the ability to actually help people.

Most people will never be leaders of a large company or become world champions. Most people will not play on the world stage in a leadership capacity. But the average person, every person can be a leader of himself and those within his immediate circle – the family, friends and colleagues.

Every person has personal potential and the privilege of influencing others. Every person will encounter thousands of people over a life time and will have the opportunity to impact their lives in some way. Every person will have opportunities to inspire or motivate others to pursue their own personal potential and their passions for the fullness of life.

We often are under a false impression that our potential is static but potential is an unfolding concept. The more we exercise the talents and qualities we were given at birth, the greater the potential for further discovering and developing our talents and skills. There is no END or arrival point to our potential. From our own limited experience we know how we grow in awareness about forests and plains, of nature’s beauty from the hills and mountain tops. Our awareness becomes even vaster, more compelling, more exhilarating as it beckons you further.

Potential will result in fostering these desires. The more you see, the more you will want to see, the more you do, the more you will want to do, the more you discover you are capable of accomplishing, the more you will want to accomplish. ..And the more you learn, the more you will want to learn. You will realize that the more you succeed in one area of your life, the more you will want to succeed in all other areas of your life.

You Can Start From Your Strength or Talent

You don’t have to be the best at everything. You can still put yourself out there. You can still make a contribution. You can still give something of value to people. How do you know if what you have to share has value? Share it first, and you’ll soon find out. If it provides value, people will tell you. If it doesn’t, people will usually ignore you. As long as you’re getting ignored, keep experimenting by trying to provide value in new and unique ways. Maybe you have a sweet voice and would be better at podcasting than blogging. Or perhaps video would be a better outlet for your creativity. The only limits are in your thinking.

When I lunched my first blog website in, 2015 (, which is now closed, it was largely ignored. It took me one year to develop it, but nobody cared. My next online business was Fast Links Bulk SMS where I resell Bulk SMS from, it generates an average income of N20, 000 every month, but it was still basically a flop. I still make money from my online Bulk SMS till today.  I tried different marketing styles and different strategies to get clients from social media to do business with me. It took about seven years of trial and error to align and develop my online business skills with creating value for others.

Seven years may seem like a long time for some people, but remember, I was coming from a place of knowing virtually nothing about how to run a personal online business when I started. It took a long time to calibrate my skill set to market realities. In the beginning I was trying to create a product to sell, something that would make me money. But right now, I focused on offering and transforming my businesses the way that will get people to love the services I provide for them. That is a huge difference in mindset.

As I lunched Arts of Exceptional Life, I’m strongly focusing all my strength and energy on providing value to others much more quickly because I’ve developed my skills to leverage the internet. It can take me three to five hours or the whole day depending on the topic to write a post and it would be read by thousands of people who I don’t know personally. But I’m creating values for someone. I’m focusing on the service side. After some months of blogging I will figured out how to use my skills to give people what they need and want.  Right now, the most important result to track isn’t how many visitors my website is getting or how much money I’m making from it right. Rather, I’m figuring out whether I’m actually making a difference in people’s lives.

Are you helping people? Are you providing strong value? If you’re providing genuine value, time and referrals will take care of most of your other key metrics. When your business model is no longer fed by sufficient demand, you can always switch to doing something else. But if there’s one thing humanity needs right now, it’s for more of us to step it up and embrace our true potential instead of settling for the limited roles assigned by our social conditioning. In our current environment, there’s still plenty of room for more people to start businesses based on helping and encouraging others to grow. We’re a long way from being over-saturated in this area.

Helping others: it’s a fundamental part of humanity, bonding together and helping a fellow man or woman. In times of tragedy, the stories of those who help others are inspiring, such as helping the nation recover from national disasters and terrorist attacks. Some men and women even devote their lives to helping others, from the police force that protects our cities, to the fire departments who run into burning buildings, to the service men and women who risk their lives for the common good.

Make a conscious decision to help someone today; you don’t know how your strengths, talents, gifts and ideas can change someone’s life in years to come. Do you know? I don’t know. Until you try!

Until next time, Live Exceptionally!